Tuesday, August 4, 2015

"What's in it for Me?" (Part 3 of "Am I a Church Member?")

Matthew 20:1-16
1 "For the kingdom of heaven is like a landowner who went out early in the morning to hire laborers for his vineyard. 2 After agreeing with the laborers for the usual daily wage, he sent them into his vineyard. 3 When he went out about nine o'clock, he saw others standing idle in the marketplace; 4 and he said to them, "You also go into the vineyard, and I will pay you whatever is right.' So they went. 5 When he went out again about noon and about three o'clock, he did the same. 6 And about five o'clock he went out and found others standing around; and he said to them, "Why are you standing here idle all day?' 7 They said to him, "Because no one has hired us.' He said to them, "You also go into the vineyard.' 8 When evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his manager, "Call the laborers and give them their pay, beginning with the last and then going to the first.' 9 When those hired about five o'clock came, each of them received the usual daily wage. 10 Now when the first came, they thought they would receive more; but each of them also received the usual daily wage. 11 And when they received it, they grumbled against the landowner, 12 saying, "These last worked only one hour, and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the day and the scorching heat.' 13 But he replied to one of them, "Friend, I am doing you no wrong; did you not agree with me for the usual daily wage? 14 Take what belongs to you and go; I choose to give to this last the same as I give to you. 15 Am I not allowed to do what I choose with what belongs to me? Or are you envious because I am generous?' 16 So the last will be first, and the first will be last."

            The kingdom of God is for everyone. That’s simple enough, right? The kingdom of God isn’t closed to anyone; no one is outside the reach of God’s love, and no one is kept from inclusion in God’s kingdom. We’ve heard that all before, and we rejoice in it. “Amazing grace, how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me…” We’re glad God’s kingdom is for everyone, that it is for “whosever,” for as that old gospel hymn says, “whosoever surely meaneth me.” The wonders and riches of God’s grace are to be praised and glorified as it goes so far as to save even a sinner like me! We celebrate the love of Christ, the grace of God, the calling of the Holy Spirit when it penetrates our hearts, when it calls us out of the bondage of sin, and into the liberation of salvation. It’s a wonderful thought, to think of how, despite my sin, Jesus still loves me; God still calls me into that divine fellowship and eternal communion. Oh, what a joy to know that God loves me.
            But… when that same grace, that same love seems to reach just a little lower…when that same joy is given to someone I’m pretty sure I’m better than…when that same salvation is freely given to someone else who isn’t nearly as pious as me, who lives a more “sinful lifestyle” than me, who doesn’t read their Bible, go to church, or pray as much as me…when the same God who loves me, loves those beneath me, those who came late to the party, those who don’t work as much as me, those who don’t give as much as me…well…I’m not so anxious to sing “Amazing Grace” anymore. In fact, I want to look up the root of the word “whosoever” and see if there actually might be an exception or two. 
You see, it’s been my experience that we too often seem to be conveniently ignorant of our own privileges and the grace which has been extended to us. We tend to want every advantage, every grace, every possible break, any leg up we can get, but we hardly ever want that for someone else, especially someone we have judged to be “below” us. I’ve found this to be true whether it’s something like financial assistance for college or something as trivial as a pick-up game of basketball: we want every advantage, and we certainly don’t want anyone else to have even so much as a head start.
Of course, it’s not just about advantages and grace; more often than not, this reality plays out in the way we insist on controlling even those things which are not ours to control, in the ways we try to write our own rules for things which were gifts given to us in the first place. When someone who hasn’t invested as much as we have, someone who hasn’t worked as hard, someone who hasn’t given as much, someone who hasn’t “paid their dues,” someone we don’t like gets the same privileges, the same payment, the same grace that we have received, we cry out, “That’s not fair!” But grace isn’t fair. Love isn’t fair.
I think we’ve forgotten that. I think we’ve allowed ourselves to be coaxed into thinking that all that really matters is “what’s in it for me,” and I’m afraid the Church has to confess that it’s played a pretty big role in creating such an attitude, especially among its members.
I think about the young family that shows up at the big church in town, baby in one arm and a toddler pulling on the other. They want to join the church, but first they want to know what’s in it for them. The pastor says, “Well we’ve got a nice, new children’s wing—state-of-the-art. Just pull your car up to the door under the covered driveway and a staff member will retrieve your child and give you a pager, so you can join your friends at the coffee shop across town. You don’t even have to get out of the car!” Or the young man who expresses his desire to me a part of a local congregation, and someone says to him, “You’ll love our church. We’ve got the best singles’ ministry in the county. We have a higher success rate in matching couples than eHarmony, match.com, AND farmersonly.com!” Or how about this: “What’s that you say? You’re into fitness and exercise? Well, we’ve got the latest work out equipment in our church gymnasium: elliptical machines, stair climbers, treadmills, free-weights, a walking track—and all of that is free to members of our church!” Or, “If you like good music, we’ve got the best praise band in the country; our worship leader is known around the world (you can buy his CDs in the church coffee shop)…if you like to hear words that will ‘bless your heart’ then you’ll love our pastor. He always preaches sermons that make you feel better about yourself, and he always has the best smile, the sharpest suits, and the best haircut!”
You think I’m kidding? The truth is churches have created an environment of congregational entitlement. For many, this is simply understood as the ministries provided by the church, the “perks” of church membership, but for others, this sort of constant appeasement has created a sense of power and control, as the church has continually said, “Whatever you want, you can have.” This is most dangerous to the life of a congregation when someone sees themselves and their preferences as more important than others because of their self-made “rank” in the church. They’ve forgotten the teaching of Jesus—the hard teaching from the parable before us this morning: it’s not about what’s in it for you, about what you can get, about an exchange of influence for money or time. It’s not about what’s fair, because grace isn’t fair.
This is one of what I refer to as Jesus’ “frustrating parables.” There are those familiar parables that we like because they at least make some sense. There’s the parable of the Good Samaritan: the story of a man who is helped by the last person you’d expect, by the racial outcast, and we are told in that story what it means to be a good neighbor. That’s an easy parable to hear, an easy one to preach most of the time. Then there’s the parable of the Prodigal Son, a story about a son, a brother, who takes his father’s inheritance and blows it all with fast, sinful living, yet the father welcomes him back with joy and a party. That’s a good parable; that seems to be a better parable for a day like today when we celebrate our fathers. Of course there are also those short, simple parables about lost sheep and lost coins and how there is much rejoicing when they’re found, just as there is much rejoicing when one sinner is found and restored to salvation. But this parable…this parable is frustrating because, well, because it just isn’t fair.
A man needs to hire some workers, so he goes out in the morning and hires some day laborers. He agrees to pay them the fair wage, so they hop in the truck and off to work they go. Well, at lunchtime, the boss realizes he needs more help, so he goes back and hires some more workers. When it’s time for the afternoon coffee and smoke break, the boss looks around and realizes he’s not going to get everything done before dark, so he goes back two more times and hires some more workers. When the whistle blows and payday comes, all the workers are paid the same thing, whether they clocked in at nine in the morning or at five in the afternoon. Of course, those who were hired first complained that it wasn’t fair that those who had only worked a few hours got paid the same as those who labored all day in the field—and they’re right. It’s not fair. But grace isn’t fair. Love isn’t fair
You see, that’s a comforting thought when love’s imbalance tips the scales in our favor, when we’re let off the hook for our ignorance and sin, but when love’s inequity favors others who don’t deserve it…well…that’s not right! It’s the last line of this parable that peels back the veneer of our piety, that exposes the truth of our selfishness and our claims of superiority: “So the last will be first, and the first will be last." That’s what the kingdom of God is like. Just when you think you’ve earned the top spot, right when you think you’ve worked hard enough to hold the most influence, just when you think you’ve given enough money to pay for a spot on the board, Jesus says, “the last will be first, and the first will be last." That’s not fair!
When you approach church membership with the attitude of “What’s in it for me?,” the implication is that there ought to be some transaction, some exchange of your membership, your presence, your giving, for benefits, whether those benefits are programs that suit you, your control of committees, or even your preferences for worship.  But the truth is, being a church member means you don’t ask “What’s in it for me?” Rather, it means asking “What can I do to serve?” Being a church member means being last even though you may “deserve” to be first. Being a church member means laboring for the Lord and when payday comes, understanding that it won’t be fair. Being a church member is about working for the Kingdom of God, striving for justice, longing for peace, praying for reconciliation, loving everyone, inviting all to the banquet table, and doing it all without the selfish thought of getting something in return. That’s hard. That’s not fair. But grace isn’t fair. Love isn’t fair. I thank God that it isn’t, because the truth is I can work harder than anybody, give more than everybody, show up when there’s no one else around, and still not earn the grace and love of Christ. Thank God grace isn’t fair. Thank God love isn’t fair. Thank God “the last will be first, and the first will be last,” because that means we’ll still get to be in line. Amen.

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